After a local speech I gave in October, I found myself having conversations with different people regarding finding courage in their lives. I noticed one common thread within these discussions, which was, we can not live a courageous life without disappointing some people along the way. However, it’s important we take note of who these people are because I believe that the people who genuinely care about us and are cheering for our success will never be “disappointed” in us. This is because they understand failure, forgiveness, hope and the meaning of encouragement.
The only people who are disappointed are the ones with their own agenda. Therefore their “disappointment” is more about how their interests do not align with our interests. This should be a red flag that signals they are unable to be a true advocate, and it’s that knowledge that allows us to separate them from the people who will encourage us to be more courageous throughout life.
My advice is we should all surround ourselves with encouragers who are cheering for our rise and are OK with us no matter what because they genuinely care about our well-being. They put our vulnerability to the test, which allows us to express the truth, based on trust.
We will only have a very few people establish this kind of foundation in our lives. Therefore, when you find it, embrace it and value it. I call it my “cabinet of advisors.” It’s a small circle, but a powerful one because I know their opinions will always strengthen me. I trust them because I know their words are not a judgment because they are rooted in integrity.
Integrity is doing the right thing regardless of the situation or the circumstance. It may not be what I want to hear sometimes, but I always listen because I know they speak from a place of encouragement and power that reminds me of who I am and that gives me the courage to triumph over any thoughts or fears that could hold me back from unleashing my full potential.